Double the Hugs…Double the Kisses…Double the Love and Holiday Wishes!
By Christa D. Reed, Editor-in-Chief of TWINS Magazine
It’s the holidays and however you and yours celebrate this joyous season, my advice to all of you is to really try to have fun and be in the moment no matter what those moments bring! No, seriously. It’s so easy for us busy, over-worked and over-stressed MOMS to get caught up in all the expectations we put not only on ourselves but those expectations we also feel from others in our life. And, now thanks to Pinterest and the Food Network, we have the extra added pressure and expectations heaped on us to have the absolute most perfect Martha Stewert-esk holiday décor, the most perfect and amazing food (so we can then post it on Facebook); and of course the absolute most perfect, well-behaved, well-dressed, put together kids you have ever seen on the planet! Right? Well… I say we don’t need the added pressure, especially raising multiples! It’s already a tough and challenging job that few we know in our own lives could handle, so why then should we fall for the hype?
I say this year we try and relax and enjoy the hectic and busy times with our kids and let go of the expectation of being “perfect!” This year, let’s do our very best to forget the idea of being perfect and get real… You don’t have to create the perfect anything… all your kids want is time with you! I know, it sounds weird and maybe even (dare I say) old fashioned? But if your family tried for at least one day to reconnect by putting down the smart phones, tablets, mini I-pads, XBOX, DS (whatevers) and just do a puzzle or play games with your kids, these will be the memories they will cherish forever. If you take time away from technology for even a day and bake cookies, do crafts, go sledding, sing, laugh and play… this is what they will remember, not the fact that “Oh, mom, that was the Christmas you had streaming gold lace draping our tree and everything matched perfectly,” or “That centerpiece in 2013 was amazing!”
So this season, when your kids are screaming and running around the house, bouncing off furniture, fighting, arguing and rolling around… it’s important for us to breathe in these moments! Why, you ask? (and I know in your mind you are thinking of ways to move through this hectic season as fast as possible so you can get back to your normal structured routines, right?) Well… don’t do it this year!
This year, enjoy and revel in every scream, bounce, laugh and even manic tears that roll down everyone’s faces, because these times, my friends, are fleeting… I always tell people it’s tough raising four boys (including twins) but this is the season of my life right now and the best thing for me to do is take in every moment (good and bad) and realize that, this too will pass (whether I want it to or not!)
These feelings of stress and the continual run-a-round may be something we even long for some day! The days when our house was full of energy, laughter and love! Soon, your kids will grow up and have families of their own and your life will enter a new season and new memories you will forever cherish. So for now, let go of the idea of trying to be perfect, take a deep breath, wipe the spit-up off your shirt, and face the holidays head-on with cheerfulness, energy and the desire to have fun at all costs!
As we look to the start of our 30th year as the premiere parenting magazine and website dedicated to raising twins and higher-order multiples, we are thankful and excited for a future that promises to be very bright! Here is wishing all of you the happiest and most joyous of seasons from our family to yours…