Adoption info and parenting advice of two sets of twins under 3

[Bumble]

My husband and I are infertile, my husbands brother and wife have in the past 10 months had their children removed from their custody for hurting them. So, my husband and I decided to go for a residence order and to fight for the children (who we had not at this time met before due to family problems). Anyway, they have two sets of twins both none identical Cloe and Nicolas who are 2.5 years old, and Cieran and Tomas who are 1 today.

What I am looking for is advice, help, interesting URL's, to help on these particular topics. Maybe even advice from all of you out there, on caring for twins. Particularly in multiple like these.

Even stories of particular things that may help us face the daily traumas and delights that could come along with these children. Cloe is a mummy type, Nicolas "has sharp teeth" and is a bully, Cieran is a bundle of laughs, always giggling, and Tomas is quiet and serene, and at this time just goes with the flow.

They have been through so much in their small lives, and I dont want to fail them at all. If we win custody (we have had to fight the courts although we couldnt really afford too) then we should have these children being loved by us, by the midlde of January.

Any help would be appreciated greatly.

God Bless

[npilate]

I come from a family where my sister was a twin (her twin died shortly after birth), another sister has twin girls, my niece has 16 month old twin boys (and a five year old). My niece just had a second set of twins and did not tell anyone that she was even preganant. She never had prenatal care. She did not even know that she was having twins. She decided that she would just leave the baby in the hospital and give the baby up for adoption. Her plan did not work because she gave birth to them at home in the bathroom and succtioned the girl who was not breathing. When the paramedics arrived she was sitting on the toilet with two babies in her arms. The whole family ended up finding out about the babies and I took the babies home with me from the hospital.

I had nothing at all for a baby and overnight my husband and I became the parents of twins (boy/girl) along with our other two children 3 and 6. I tell you you will have your hands full with the children. I say to you make sure you have a babysitter/nanny lined up even if it is just for one day a week. You will need to accept all offers of help. Don't turn away anyone that you basically trust. You should set up a time for you and your husband and also for yourself. You will crave for the company of an adult after a while. Organization is the ultimate. Have a place for everthing and train the children from the beginning that this is your play area and when you are finished put your toys away. Small children can make you house look like a tornado hit it in a short amount of time.

The best advise that I have for you is remind yourself that you have been truely blessed to have those children in your life. I comend you for stepping in to make a difference in those childrens lives.